Alex was an apple farmer during a prolonged season of drought.
Curiously, his orchard was the least affected by the drought and other farmers began asking him why his orchard was still green while theirs were drying up.
The season's crop looked destined to fail- except for Alex's.
"Actually, my trees could go several more weeks without any water," Alex said.
"When my trees were young, I often withheld water from them. Because of that, they had to send their roots deeper into the soil to find water. Now, while some trees are dying, mine are drinking moisture at a much greater depth."
The culture of today says if life gets difficult, we should do whatever we can to avoid the difficulty.
If we are in pain, we should do whatever we can as quickly as we can to escape the pain.
Difficulty and pain are to evaded or avoided at all costs- but difficulty and pain are as much a part of life as ease and pleasure. If we're going to live a greater life, we need to learn from difficulty and pain and to put our roots down deeper so we become stronger.
As an example of learning from pain, a friend is sharing a feature of her child raising philosophy with us.
She has two sons and is training them not to yell to her wherever they are in the house. She has taught them she will not respond to them unless they are talking to her face to face.
This doesn't come easy to one of her sons in particular.
The other day he yelled:"Mum!Where are my socks?"
She just ignored him and soon after heard him say,"Oh, here they are."
Mums who run around picking up after their children and responding to their yells aren't doing them any favours.
Children should learn to pick up what they've dropped and find what they've lost themselves.
That is what the good books says.